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Thursday, October 28, 2004

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The Spa had lots of classes about finding laughter, finding who you and and remembering it when you find it, being authentic, balance, etc. In the days of having to spin plates, of home, work, community, spirit, relationships, [fill in the blank], it's tough to also juggle and balance. Sometimes it feels a bit like a circus act, where you are spinning plates and juggling, while wearing clown-face and balancing on a large rubber ball. Sometimes it feels like that ball is more the size of a marble.

Who has time (outside of a spa week) to figure out what or who is really deep inside and how we are supposed to keep it all going? What does balancing mean to women who are expected (and often do) do it all? And if you are fortunate enough to find a momentary balance, what do you do when fate throws you a curve and knocks you off that big (or tiny) ball, plates and all?

Something's gotta give.

Is it just that we choose what we need to ignore from a list that we can afford to ignore that day/week/moment? Then do we just circulate things on that list, and shift things around so we can put things aside for awhile once they are okay? Do we give up a portion of ourselves or our lives to be able to keep the rest in balance?

At 53 I thought I would be wiser. I think I've just learned to ignore more, spin faster and balance en pointe...


  • At October 31, 2004 at 4:33 PM, Blogger Wanderer said…

    I don't think I have learned as yet to ignore more. My spa visit taught me that it is easy to get caught up in trying to do everything. It is very hard to slow the train down when you are used to going full steam ahead! I had to force myself to literally stop and smell the roses while I was relaxing.

    I have brought some of that relaxation home with me, though. I have stopped to relax and spend some time with myself. The fact that I can find the time to do that, at will, has been most eye-opening. It shouldn't really be surprising, since I am generally balancing many plates. I guess I just have to choose which plates to balance and which to let go.

  • At November 1, 2004 at 8:14 PM, Blogger Adriana said…

    No kidding. I have yet to learn that skill. My response (in my mind) when I heard someone asking "why don't you exercise" was something along the lines of "I have a husband, two daughters, and full time school. The house is sort of next, though it's suffering. What should I put off in order to exercise?"

    What I should be thinking is, "I need some time to exercise or I will suffer poor health, and perhaps leave this earth all too early. How can I rearrange things so that I can take care of myself?"

    How do I get from point A to point B? I suffer from the mommy syndrome - I MUST DO IT ALL! Tell me, O learned ones!


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